What is with these people?

I feel like you really figure out who someone is when they get into a relationship. Like, if they are really an independent person, they will stay independent. They will still spend time with their friends, still do things on their own, will still maintain their own separate life. Its those friends that fall off the face of the earth that make you wonder. Did you really mean all that much to them to begin with? Were you just their crutch until that boy came along that they could throw their lives at? I just don't really get it.

Ok, yes, I was always that girl that never had a boyfriend. I'm not really sure why. Sure, I dated, but nothing serious. I have an idea as to why my relationships never progressed but thats a conversation for later. So, while I was watching my friends come and go (in and out of relationships) I think I got angry. Why did they think it was ok for them to be friends with me when it was convenient for them? A few years ago I would stand on my soapbox and preach about how I would never cut my friends off when I found a boyfriend. I'm sure I was a bit tiresome to a few of my friends. But, in the back of my head I always wondered "what would I really be like"?

So here I am now, in a serious relationship. And I'm not like some of my friends. I have maintained my individuality, my friends, my career, and most of my social life. Sure, my boyfriend is around alot, but I have no problem telling him to stay home if I need my time with my friends or just by myself. What does the way that I act in a relationship say about me? Am I just too indignant to act like the rest of society when they become spoken for? Or am I one of the few girls left that thinks it really is important to maintain my independence? Whatever the reason may be, I know the way I am approaching love is the best way. If my relationship ever comes crashing down, most of my world, my individuality, and my social life will remain intact.

I would love to do a study corresponding people's behaviors in relationships to the success rate of relationships. Until I decide that I care enough, I will just observe my friends. And, of course, continue to get angry each time I lose a friend to the darkside and just want to shake them to wake them up!